Let me explain…
Despite the massive medical and scientific progress of our sophisticated society, we seem to be suffering more pain, not less. Research by Naomi I. Eisenberger, Matthew D. Lieberman, Kipling D. Williams at the Universities of California and Sydney, has revealed that emotional and physical pain are linked – the same areas of the brain are activated by both.
Probably the biggest part of my work is helping clients cope with their reactions to life’s ups and downs. Everyone these days seem to be so stressed and miserable. And it hurts.
I find that most clients need virtually the same skills, and so I take them through a process I’ve designed to help them acquire the tools and understanding they need to navigate through life with more peace, more fulfilment, greater satisfaction, better health and relationships – and with more ease.
I’ve noticed a trend over the years – increasing numbers of people seeing me with anxiety and stress. But why? Why do we seem to be suffering more problems? Why are we coping less well?
Is it because we’re doing the wrong things?
While we all have ways of coping with our lives, and use strategies to make ourselves feel better, some of those strategies will never give us what we truly need, and will create much bigger problems in the long term, than the original problem they were supposed to be fixing.
It’s no wonder we’re in the mess we’re in.
Look at these alarming statistics and imagine the pain people must be in to try to solve their problems through drink, drugs, food, relationships etc. And then imagine how much more pain they must be in, with these extra problems to deal with on top of the original issue.
(National Treatment Agency)
(Office for National Statistics)
Anxiety & Depression
(Mental Health Organisation)
(Health and Social Care Information Centre, NHS)
(The Family Planning Association)
(Health & Social Care Information Centre, NHS)
And I‘ve only got to mention school exams to send shivers up the spines of countless teenagers under pressure to perform.
It’s not looking good, and it’s not improving on its own – it’s getting worse. Surely, it’s got to be because a lot of people don’t have a better understanding of what they really need, and therefore aren’t in the best position to take care of themselves in a healthy way.
There’s so much misinformation (and much of it circulated by industries benefitting from it) – how are you supposed to know what’s good and what’s not good for you?
Instead, imagine this scene…
Everyone understands their emotions and what they’re really for, and people take care of their physical and emotional needs in a safe and healthy way, not just for themselves, but in a way that is OK for everyone else too.
Imagine the difference that would make to all of us, and every day of our lives.
Jeremy Kyle would have to look for another job for a start!